Valentiming" on Valentine's Day Prompts Daters to Evaluate their Relationships, with Advice to Focus on Realistic Expectations and Open Communication.
As Valentine's Day approaches, many daters find themselves in the throes of "Valentiming", a phenomenon where the significance of this day of love leads to a deep reflection on the status and seriousness of their relationships. This time of year, which should be about celebrating love, often becomes a source of pressure and uncertainty.
Shan Boodram, Bumble’s relationships expert, acknowledges the unique pressure that Valentine's Day brings, regardless of one's dating stage. She emphasizes the importance of realistic expectations and seeking connections that are genuinely fulfilling, rather than just for the sake of the holiday.
The day becomes particularly complicated for those who haven't established exclusivity or are dating someone who isn't fond of Valentine's Day. For Boodram, managing expectations and having open conversations about the day's plans are crucial. An innocent question about Valentine's Day plans could provide clarity in "situationships" and solidify relationship statuses.
Boodram stresses the importance of honesty in expressing desires and feelings to avoid disappointment. When it comes to gift exchanges, setting a mutual price point can prevent disparities in spending and add a playful element to the celebration.
In cases of fragile relationships, Boodram suggests considering skipping the celebration to alleviate stress. This doesn't devalue the relationship but rather focuses on what feels more authentic and less stressful.
Finally, for singles seeking love, Boodram recommends acknowledging the day for what it is but also remembering it's just another day. Casual and fun dates are encouraged, but without the pressure to force romantic activities.
Valentine's Day, while symbolizing love and romance, is also a reminder to approach relationships with realism, open communication, and a focus on what truly matters to each individual.